I fall very much on the submissive scale of things. I feel too unsure of my ability to read others and know what they would like to be the one in charge.

While I know how much I enjoy being on the submissive end of things and doing something for someone else, I have a hard if not impossible time believing someone would want to do that for me so I can’t tell them to. If they do it from their own volition, then that proves to me they actually want to do it. If they do it because I told them too, then it only means they are trying to follow my instructions, not that they are enjoying it themselves. This is a big deal to me and can totally throw me out of the mood if it goes askew.

I don’t like much being forced into doing things. Sometimes I can be subservient and do what I am asked with pleasure. Mostly the type of submissive activity I enjoy is being held down and being done to. Not having the power or the responsibility is wonderful to me.

And it is important for me to know that I can always say no and get out. That allows me to stay in.