I hate needing people and friends!
There was a gathering planned for today to see Pirates. One friend of mine called me about a month ago saying he wanted to set up an event to see Pirates and since I am the Pirates nut he would like to coordinate it with me. How about the Sunday the week after it opens to avoid the crowds? Since I didn’t have anything planned I said sure, I will see what I can put together. Day is now Picked.
Another friend would love to come see Pirates with us but it would have to be during the day. I said sure, I will see what I can put together. Time is not picked.
I work with my co-conspirator and things blossom. Sunday July 16th 2:45pm Grand Lake Theater. Evite goes out. Things look good. The time the movie open approaches.
I don’t make any other plans because I have plans connect to others already. Then a few days before the event I start calling around. The friend who picked the day hasn’t even bothered to think about it. He has already seen the movie and has plans for Sunday that would interfere with the Event. The friend for whom the time was picked saw it with friends on Friday and while he will be in that day, can’t stay that late to see the movie. Another friend who will have just gotten back from a business trip and didn’t know if he would be awake enough thought it was on Saturday and when I finally got a hold of him the day of, he is in the middle of the bay and can’t make it. But he really wants to and could we do it again during the week so he could join us? Other friends are interested but had a very long day on Sat and didn’t receive the Evite and didn’t know about the event until the night before and they end up not being able to make it. One friend that replied yes to the Evite, when we called her to see where she was, said she forgot about it. One friend was interested but it would be a long drive, when I tried to get a hold of him, I just get his voice mail.
The final straw was the two friends that were part of the original plan that were there. We had extra time due to a time buffer built in (smartly so) and I needed food. I had back up food but this was a good opportunity to get something more substantial. They waited for me to order and get my KFC and then told me they were heading into the theater because it was hot outside. They didn’t tell me before I paid for my food when I could have ditched the plan and just ate by back up food. They didn’t stand in line with me to keep me company (it was a long time between getting money from the bank and the food). The did wait to tell me they were ditching me which I appreciate, I just wish they didn’t wait just long enough that I have a bag of food I can’t sneak into the theater leaving me to find somewhere to stuff my food into my face by myself and find them in the theater.
My thought on this entire thing was it was an event to dress like pirates with friends, take pictures, enjoy each other’s company and see a silly pretty movie. It turn into being left outside a theater looking like a fool (a well dressed fool, thank the powers that be that pirates are popular right now), overheating, needing to scarf food I don’t really want and finding others with hats on right before a movie in a dark theater to watch a movie that I have been told has a cliff hanger ending. I wanted an event with people. If all I wanted to do was just see the movie, I could have done that any time during the last week that I have had to spend alone anyways.
I am sure everyone involved has valid reasons for their decision. I don’t blame any of them. They didn’t do anything wrong. I am just not happy with them. I would like to figure out what my part of it is so I can avoid being put in this position ever again. Right now I am disappointed and hurt. I feel like the only way I can avoid this sort of situation is to never plan things with people or trust them again. Things would be so much easier if I didn’t want or need human contact. Things would be so much better if I wasn’t. I am sure that once my feelings have run their course, I can deal with this rationally again and figure something out. Until then PEOPLE SUCK!!!
And it really sucks to still want them.