The evaluation went really really well. I am actually happy to have gotten all the crappy stuff that hit my buttons. As my Dad pointed out, it is very likely to get told that stuff as they fire you. I have an idea on how to find out this sort of thing before my evaluation. There is a lot of workable stuff here.
I was able to go into it in a logical way and still be able to tell my boss that it hit a lot of buttons. We talked for 1.5 hours. When we were done, she said she was amazed at how self-aware I was. That I can see the reaction I have to something, know that isn’t the correct reaction and then work around it. That comment made me glow.
The one comment in the evaluation which was a mistake I made and have since corrected got cleared up. It made me feel like all my mistakes are going to be listed and nothing said about how I have done about learning from those mistakes. Makes you really not want to risk anything new. I mentioned it to her and she posed that she guessed she was really mad about that. It was neat to be able to work out with her that this one thing hit her button and made it into my evaluation and I was able to give her some of what she needed to take care of that being mad feeling.
I have some things to work on and I am fine with that. There was some great stuff in the evaluation as well.
I have taken a number of hits from last Friday through this Monday so I am taking it easy. Next week I will start addressing the uncomfortable things I need to in the office and hopefully make it an even better place to be.
FYI I haven’t been keeping up with LJ. I don’t think I have read anything since last Friday. I might get to it, I might not.
Er, happy birthday?
It definitely sounds like you’re making your way through this really well, finding constructive things to do with the things that were pointed out to you as issues, etc. I especially like that you were able to point at the mistake that was corrected and push a little about why that was considered appropriate to have on your evaluation without the recognition that the problem was addressed already, and whether you could expect that to be the case on every evaluation.
(Happy Birthday)