A year ago, I could barely stand to talk to my mom.
Yesterday, I took the day off to pick her up at the airport and spend the day with her. We are getting along great. It can be tiring as I am testing recognizing and holding boundaries. I think we are doing a good job. I am really enjoying her visit and am already thinking it is sad she leaves tomorrow. I want more mom.
She is at my place cooking stew. I am looking forward to having mom leftovers to keep me company when she goes home.
She is not getting along with my brother. They were doing great when I wasn’t able to deal with her. There is no direct correlation but someone suggested it is the Law of Conservation of Relatives. We can only get along with one parent, one child at a time. I haven’t really talked to my dad much because it has been Tax season and he is a pain from Jan through May or so. This means I haven’t tested if he and I are going to butt heads because I am enjoying my mom so much. I am perfectly happy not testing the conservation of relatives.
But I do need some time off even if I don’t know what to do with it. I finished with the work I was doing for Baycon on Wed last week. Friday and Sunday were working on cleaning my apartment. Sat was sleeping and getting up at 9pm and messing with my sleep schedule which is getting to be a rather regular habit. Mom here this week and after she leaves it is time to go to Baycon. Everything is nicely spaced but I am not getting a lot of time to build reserves. I am not sure what I am going to do with myself after Baycon is all over. Guess it will be time to focus on my plans for going to Denver in Aug.
Depression is still around but these are good distractions from it. I am getting to work closer to on time but it is still a massive struggle and a major problem. I am eating and I am still consuming sugar. If I stop, I could just fall over or I could get a chance to rest. I don’t know which way it would fall. But I am moving through it and enjoying what I can.
My mom and I are even laughing together. That is so cool.
Godo to hear you are seeing the happy moments
“But I am moving through it and enjoying what I can.”
That is all any of us can do. It is a hard skill to develop.
Cherish your parents
As annoying as they might be, they are still your family.
Having lost both parents, I can offer you this advice. Remember the good times and forgive and forget the bad. There will come a time when they are no longer there and you will have wished you did.
Boy, that is depressing. It’s what happens when you go from summer weather to rain in 12 hours. Hello Summer? The pacific northwest is paging summer!
Re: Cherish your parents
You can have our summer. I want your rain.
I do deal with things according to your advice. We are currently working on not stepping all over each other so that we can improve our relationship vs just tolerating each other. Forgive and forgetting the bad means repeating the same problems over and over. We are working out a good process of learning from instead of forgetting and then forgiving because we don’t have to protect from a repeat.
Each time I have stopped talking to either parent, it was with the very clear understanding that they could end before anything got straightened out. Each time (once each) it has been necessary enough to face that extreme. I don’t claim it would be easy, just that I am very very aware of it.
*chuckle*
We definitely want your summer right now—especially for this Saturday! (Fence demolition at my place)
I’m glad to see that you are working on so many things in a much more positive fashion. Work, eating, depression, family. That’s a lot to tackle in and of itself, and then you add in the additional bits with cons and you amaze me with what you accomplish.
*hugs*
I am really silly. I will be ready to tackle something and I end up with a huge amount on my plate. Then I burn out and hide in a hole. Then I get better and am ready to tackle something. Rinse…Lather…Repeat.
I can’t seem to just open up a little and take bite size morsels. I am getting better as I am not totally burning out but it is still too much.
Ah…the joy of learning.