A couple of weeks ago, I got a letter from my mom. Included in it was a list of who around her right now got what if something should happen to her. X would get her stereo, Y would get the dogs, Z would handle her debts, etc.
She is currently in Bali and relatively near (as apposed to us in the US) the affects of the earthquakes in that part of the world. She and those she knows are fine and are not near the problems but it does show how things can happen at any time.
Her list got me thinking about a list for me. People/friends have said that when I die they want abc of mine. I have been thinking of posting a request for who wants what if/when I die but have been putting it off. Ragani’s post today made me decide that maybe it is time.
So, I know ren_wench wants my long velvet coat if anything should happen to me but I can’t remember what else. So, people, chime in. I have a bunch of cool stuff, who wants what if I should no longer have a need for it?
I want your sense of humor…
You already do. I have no sense of humor of my own (my family is really lacking it) and have learned to mimic those around me. When I am good, I match the sense of humor of whoever I am with. So, the sense of humor I have around you is probably yours.
Either that, or I am channeling other funny people, like Devin.
Bah… I’ve known you for more than 3 decades… you do have your own wonderful, quirky, unique and beautiful sense of humor…
And an overexaggerated case of modesty!
*hugs*
I’ve known you for more than 3 decades…
I envy you.
This isn’t coming from an overblown idea of modesty. This is something I have worked out over the years to understand what I do.
I am not saying I am not funny just that I don’t have a sense of humor of my own. I have a strange way of looking at things, an understanding that most people don’t think the way I do and the ability to observe.
My grandfather had a bad sense of humor, he would try to be funny and he would be mean. My mother tries to be funny and she just isn’t. I learned to watch others and what they thought was funny and absorb it.
I use to be on an improv comedy team and was pretty good. I was around some great funny people and was able to do the same. I couldn’t do it now. My friends can be funny but not that funny.
So, what you see as my sense of humor is what I have absorbed from those around me. After awhile without regular updates, it fades and I absorb what I am currently around. If I am around funny people, I am a gas. If I am around boring people, I become dull. I am glad I have such cool and interesting friends. I get to keep being funny.
You do so have a sense of humour. Who else can I count on to be my partner is mischief? Remember our(in)famous airport greetings? Pumpkin’s Cash Box for his bar? …
I don’t come up with these things on my own, you know!
I work great with others. I just suck up your sense of humor and reflect it back, increasing it and growing until it becomes truly glorious and EEEE!-Ville.
That is why we are so good at planning things together and aren’t quite as much fun on our own.
hmm.
I prefer you living another 4-5 more decades, if at all possible. And besides, none of your stuff will fit me. You’re too damn tall.
And outside of rifling through your stuff, I just prefer to have plenty of photographs of you in various costumes as possible.
Re: hmm.
Oh good lord, please do not make me suffer through 4-5 more decades. 2-3 maybe, but not as many as 4-5. I haven’t enjoyed the first 4, don’t want the same again, please.
As for stuff, not all of it is clothes.
And for pictures of costumes, most of what I have for the last couple of years is already online. Sounds like is going to do what she can to keep it available even after I am no more.
Whenever I start thinking about this I always get hung up on having no idea who to give my cars to. I just don’t know anyone who would appreciate them as much as I do. Beyond the cars, the rest of my stuff doesn’t so much matter.
wah
I hate to think of you gone. I’d want something to remember you by – pictures most likely… Oh, yeah! I hereby volunteer myself (and Crystal because she’s better at the web stuff) to ‘take’ your Gina Space website and maintain it will all of your wonderful pictures. Just leave us instructions on how to get to it.
Which makes me think that there should be some sort of provisions that you can make so that your website/lj/whatever isn’t closed after your death. It should just be affixed with a little note saying when you died, then it should be there forever. Hmm, must discuss with Kev…
Re: wah
pictures like the one I used for my icon
http://www.livejournal.com/users/capricious_k/119549.html
Re: wah
I like this idea.
It has gotten me thinking about what information I should have gathered in case I do die. How would anyone know who would need to be contacted? My online identity would just sit there not being updated. I could be busy or I could be gone, who’s to know unless someone in my network found out and passed the information along.
It is both a pragmatic and macabre notion that you propose. It is anathema to my ideals to be thinking about your stuff when the real important thing would be the loss of your life. Friendships are about the people, not their possessions.
I can not bring myself to facilitate your request as it would make me feel like an opportunistic buzzard. Should you die I would just like to be invited to the funeral and/or wake. I want to remember you and give you my tears, not drool over misgotten loot.
See, the point to this question is that things would be figured out beforehand so it wouldn’t have to be thought of during the grieving process. I want my cool stuff to go to people who would appreciate it instead of dumped at some Goodwill. There isn’t a choice as to whether I am there or not but there is a choice as to who would get what. It is possible to go to the wake or whatever and find a home for things to continue to be appreciated.
Not knowing what you have, I can’t really answer this, but I am amused by the idea of “The Gina Memorial Wake and Rummage Sale”, where all items not claimed in advance are offered to friends for a nominal fee, monies to go to a charity of your choosing. Or a person of your choosing, even.
Oooooo, I love this idea. Money to cover costs or a charity.
The eminently practicle side of me says I want your boot collection since we have the same size feet.
The emotional side of me says, you are not allowed to die until we have done at least 5 group costumes together.
??
The two of you have the same size feet?
Well, now that I think about it, Morgan is getting the pirate boots that lace up the back, and I think gets the size 11 brown suede over the knee boots. You can have the size 10 brown ones and any of the others you wish.
As You Wish
Sparklies. Okay and the not so sparklies.
As I said at lunch, your jewlery. Like the pirate stash of the Dread Pirate Gina, only you know, not so Princess Bride, more Pirates of the Carribean.
I forgot to ask, in the reverse situation, anything of mine you want?
Re: As You Wish
Off the top of my head, your graphic novels.
And if no one needs it, your sewing machine. I would also like to raid your closet, jewelry and weapons. I may even want to run away with your duvet cover as something that you made and contains a lot of different aspects of you.
Of course, I may have to hide all these things until I can get past the problem of having stuff instead of you but these are things I would value.
And as I told you in person, you asking for my jewelry in that upfront direct manner of yours brought a smile to my face and tears to my eyes. It made me feel really good really deep down.
You should probably just do a will. It will save misunderstandings later.
/lawyer