I have sort of been challenged to post the following. From meowse.
1. Give me a nickname, and explain why you picked it.
2. Am I lovable?
3. How long have you known me?
4. When and how did we first meet?
5. What was your first impression?
6. Do you still think that way about me now?
7. What do you think my weakness is?
8. Do you think I’ll find happiness and self-love?
9. What makes me happy?
10. What makes me sad?
11. What reminds you of me?
12. If you could give me anything what would it be?
13. How well do you know me?
14. When’s the last time you saw me?
15. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?
16. Do you think I could kill someone?
17. Describe me in one word.
18. Do you think our friendship is getting stronger, weaker, or staying the same?
19. Do you feel that you could talk to me about anything and I would listen?
20. Are you going to put this on your livejournal and see what I say about you?
I’ve seen this in about a dozen journals so far… but for YOU? I’ll do it…
Because you’re you!
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1. Give me a nickname, and explain why you picked it.
Minoa – because of your recent obsession with labyrinths!
2. Am I lovable?
Very much so
3. How long have you known me?
31 years – wow.
4. When and how did we first meet?
Molly Gookin’s basement – would’ve been fall of 1972
5. What was your first impression?
You seemed to nice to be playing with Molly (I was right!)
6. Do you still think that way about me now?
Yep. Definitely too nice for the Molly Gookins of the world!
7. What do you think my weakness is?
You are far too self-critical. And you’re still dragging some of the baggage from our childhood around with you – when it’s just as invalid as it was 3 decades ago – you are, and always have been an amazingly wonderful person!
8. Do you think I’ll find happiness and self-love?
Not until you let go of that baggage I mentioned above… but yes, I think so. You definitely deserve it!!
9. What makes me happy?
Good Company. New Costumes. Nights that can be summed up to end with “and a good time was had by all.”
10. What makes me sad?
Having your heart dropped. Having people around you who don’t listen.
11. What reminds you of me?
Puppets and the Tattered Cover.
12. If you could give me anything what would it be?
Anything? I’d give you a magic wand to ‘edit’ the parts of your life you’d like to change – past, present and future.
13. How well do you know me?
What a strange question. I can’t really answer that. I know a *part* of you very well… but you are such a multifaceted person, that I don’t know how well any *one* person can ‘know’ you! Including yourself!
14. When’s the last time you saw me?
July of this year… But I’m counting the days until January!!!
15. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?
Sure – but it was a loooong time ago – and I don’t really remember it!
16. Do you think I could kill someone?
No. I think you could wish ill on someone – but I don’t think you could kill someone.
17. Describe me in one word.
Luminous
18. Do you think our friendship is getting stronger, weaker, or staying the same?
Stronger I hope!
19. Do you feel that you could talk to me about anything and I would listen?
Actually, yes… it’s one of the reasons I hate that we live in different cities now!
20. Are you going to put this on your livejournal and see what I say about you?
Probably not. But if you want to post it a response either email it to me, or comment here
You are the friend I have known the longest. Some times that amazes me, other times it just is.
I planned to say you pinged one of my weaknesses down well, and then I realized that I was playing right into what you said. Being self-critical about it being only ONE of my weaknesses. Ha. I will have to look at that more deeply. I do know it is a defense mechanism for many reasons. If I am critical of myself first, then it hurts less when others are. Also, if I am critical, I can figure out what is wrong with me and correct it before others get on my case about it. And I don’t dare believe that I am all that wonderful. I will forget that I have both good and bad and will be devastated when the bad is shown to me. Easier to believe I’m not so great and have the good shown to me. (Not that I don’t think I am Truly Wonderful, I just can’t admit I believe that to others). I would say this is all part of the baggage you are talking about.
You are dead on with what makes me sad.
I like the one word you chose.
Thank you for replying. I was taking a risk posting this. I don’t feel I could have handled getting no comments. More of that baggage. Hi, my name is Gina and that pile of suitcases are mine.
As long as you don’t go getting those suitcases monogrammed!
I consider myself lucky to still be a part of your life. I also understand the defense mechanism of pointing out the flaw first… a matter of getting people to laugh with you, rather than at you… but it still hurts on the inside when someone else agrees, doesn’t it?
Nothing like saying something like “these jeans make my ass look fat” and having someone say “oh yeah! man!! they sure do!!” ;P
I remembered something else I ALWAYS associate with you… Peanut Butter and Marshmallow cream sandwiches.
Sure am counting the days til next month!!! miss you!
As long as you don’t go getting those suitcases monogrammed!
Monogrammed!? Come on, those babies are not only monogrammed, they are custom made, in various shades of plaid and have places for all my stuff. That is one of the reasons they are so hard to let go of. A favorite saying of mine is “shit may smell bad but it is warm.”
About having people agree with a self-pointed out flaw…
It still hurts a lot less to have someone agree than to have someone point it out fresh. To reduce the pain, then you really need to believe in the flaw. I am not saying this is better, just that it hurts less and most of my defenses are about reducing/avoiding pain.
I remembered something else I ALWAYS associate with you… Peanut Butter and Marshmallow cream sandwiches.
Fluffernutters!!!!
I knew someone who added jelly to this and that is just Wrong.
Only for you…
1. Give me a nickname, and explain why you picked it.
Hmm… I keep thinking of nicknames you already have like The Gina and GeekGirl. I think I will call you Amelia (as in Erhart) because you are always bravely exploring places I fear to tread.
2. Am I lovable?
Yes
3. How long have you known me?
Almost 8 years I think
4. When and how did we first meet?
We met at Kev’s place for Buffy night during the first season of the show.
5. What was your first impression?
I was delighted to meet someone cool and geeky. I had no friends except Kev at the time.
6. Do you still think that way about me now?
Totally. You are one of my ideals in the Cool Geek category.
7. What do you think my weakness is?
I think sometimes you are too hard on yourself.
8. Do you think I’ll find happiness and self-love?
Yes
9. What makes me happy?
Giving your friends useful information
10. What makes me sad?
Being ignored
11. What reminds you of me?
Pirates and Gina are solidly linked in my mind. Also, people with cool 80′s hair.
12. If you could give me anything what would it be?
Perfect health
13. How well do you know me?
Pretty well, but there are always new things about you that surprise me.
14. When’s the last time you saw me?
Tuesday
15. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?
Nope
16. Do you think I could kill someone?
Possibly in self defense
17. Describe me in one word.
Unique
18. Do you think our friendship is getting stronger, weaker, or staying the same?
I think it’s been a little stronger lately. After my period of stupid distraction, we’ve been better. At least I hope so.
19. Do you feel that you could talk to me about anything and I would listen?
Yes
20. Are you going to put this on your livejournal and see what I say about you?
I don’t really want the rest of the world to fill it out, but I’ll post it for you.
Re: Only for you…
Thanks for this. You have this ability to warm my heart and I really really appreciate it.
The weakness and sad answers match those from, this is insightful.
I think our friendship has been getting stronger the entire time we have known each other. What you call your period of stupid distraction had nothing to do with the glitch we had, it just made it harder to talk through. I am glad I stuck around instead of running like I would have in the past. It was worth it.
Thanks for filling this out for me and for letting me know it was special. I was afraid to ask for input because I wouldn’t get any. Just call me Amelia.
1. Give me a nickname, and explain why you picked it.
Cassandra — you tell uncomfortable truths and it is not always appreciated
Jinasidhe — for fae glamour
2. Am I lovable? yes
3. How long have you known me?
Started getting to know you some time in April or May.
4. When and how did we first meet?
At my little-brother’s 28th birthday party.
I saw you briefly at ConJose — was standing behind you in line with an SCA helm, a branch over my shoulders, and too many bags of stuff for the DiscWorld party…
5. What was your first impression?
That might be Gina — tall, one long braid… drat the boys behind me for asking questions about the SCA helm, if only I could get a better look.
That you genuinely cared for my guitarist/little_brother. Someone worth getting to know.
6. Do you still think that way about me now?
No — you are much more than that. Somethings can not be described in mere words.
7. What do you think my weakness is?
That you care deeply. It is also one of your greatest strengths.
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8. Do you think I’ll find happiness and self-love?
I think you have a chance. You will find it when you get out of your own way. When it comes to you, greet it with open hands.
9. What makes me happy?
Having a hand in helping something go right.
Being a vital part of something that is good and meaningful.
Connectedness and belonging.
10. What makes me sad?
Abandonment in all of its forms.
11. What reminds you of me?
Ivy. Skulls and pirates. Mad scientists. Math.
A 6-pointed circuit with an interlaced equilateral triangle.
12. If you could give me anything what would it be?
A more normal metabolism.
A map that would always be accurate.
A pair of peril-sensitive sunglasses with a night-vision heads-up display.
13. How well do you know me?
Better than many people, but not nearly well enough.
14. When was the last time you saw me?
Last weekend.
15. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn’t?
Yes, but that is only because we both have agreed that some topics cause too much pain.
16. Do you think I could kill someone?
Yes. I believe most people are capable of it if it was the only way to protect what is dearest to them. Fortunately most social situations don’t require the extremes.
17. Describe me in one word.
Sister
18. Do you think our friendship is getting stronger, weaker, or staying the same?
I think you will always be family.
19. Do you feel that you could talk to me about anything and I would listen?
Yes. You would listen and think about it with an open mind.
20. Are you going to put this on your livejournal and see what I say about you?
What the heck, it will make a decent first entry.
Thank you.
I love my nicknames. You are pretty dead on with the rest of it, surprise surprise.
Something about strength and weaknesses, they are usually the same, just appropriate/inappropriate times and places.
I think I have done a good job at beginning to recognized when I am getting in my own way, I still have no clue out to stop doing it. Working on that.