Where in the Hell Did my family get this ability for DRAMA????
Yeah, we are pretty dysfunctional but not much more than most every other family and we are not nearly bad enough to be used as an example of bad. So many families are worse.
But this drama thing is wearing me out. Again with the coordination of Mother, Brother and SIL. (Yndy, I am thinking my family drama is about the same level as yours, different reasons, different players but similar levels.)
And I think I don’t actually have any horse in this race. And I am the hub for each of the players. But then again that might be why I can be the hub. I don’t have any agenda but my normal one. Stir things up until we get an homogeneous mix and everyone understands everyone else and everyone is on the same page. And I might be the one with the best skills to work on this shit. I might be a fully experienced therapist before this is all over. Bwaaahaaahaaaaa.
Guess my work on myself is doing some good for others. And if nothing else, it is covering the fact that I am still not doing well with my own crap.
Onward Ho!!!
My family drama has lessened considerably of late… mostly because of my relationship with my husband. I can’t really buy into their drama anymore because it just doesn’t fit in my life – and I have the support of someone else to help me say “no, thanks” when it rears its head.
You are the hub because you are the one who has *always* been the most introspective and yet also supportive in your family. That you are the glue that binds does not surprise me – you have always had that ability.
It is so good to know that you are finding your own balance despite the fact that those around you seem to be swinging a bit off-kilter.
((hug))
I love your historical insights. They almost always surprise me. They tend to get under my skin and get used for over and over as I look at different things. I really appreciate them and you.
I have never been the glue for my family, I have wanted to be away from all of them too much for me to have that position. But I can see how I have been the glue for other groups and people. People I want to keep together.
I am not sure I am keeping my own balance in this (again I am awake in the dark of the night and asleep in the day) but it is part of my equation and finding it is a major part of what I am doing. This is what we call a growth experience. Can you hear how tight those words are coming out of my mouth.